“It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to be sad about it. It’s okay to miss him, and it’s okay to wish you did something differently. But never blame yourself for how things turned out. Never tell yourself you can’t do better, and never tell yourself this is end of the road. Fate has a time and place for all of us and nothing you can do or say will change that. Sure, it’s okay to fall, but it’s never okay to stay down.”—(via eletheowl)
“Take bread away from me, if you wish, take air away, but do not take from me your laughter. Do not take away the rose, the lance flower that you pluck, the water that suddenly bursts forth in joy, the sudden wave of silver born in you. My struggle is harsh and I come back with eyes tired at times from having seen the unchanging earth,but when your laughter enters it rises to the sky seeking me and it opens for me all the doors of life. My love, in the darkest hour your laughter opens, and if suddenly you see my blood staining the stones of the street, laugh, because your laughter will be for my hands like a fresh sword. Next to the sea in the autumn, your laughter must raise its foamy cascade, and in the spring, love, I want your laughter like the flower I was waiting for, the blue flower, the rose of my echoing country. Laugh at the night, at the day, at the moon, laugh at the twisted streets of the island, laugh at this clumsy fool who loves you, but when I open my eyes and close them, when my steps go, when my steps return, deny me bread, air, light, spring, but never your laughter.”—Pablo Neruda (via bookmania)
Scissors cuts paper, paper covers rock, rock crushes lizard, lizard poisons Spock, Spock smashes scissors, scissors decapitates lizard, lizard eats paper, paper disproves Spock, Spock vaporizes rock, and as it always has, rock crushes scissors. —Sheldon; The Big Bang Theory
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”—Pablo Neruda
“I’m never overwhelmed or under it either; just nicely whelmed. I’m OK. Nothing spectacular but sometimes special. I look in the mirror and see this medium average person. A little tired, a little sad, but not falling apart.”—Cecilia Ahern (via artpixie)
Sometimes the hurts and the struggles are so big, so so big, and we do a really good job of covering them up and working through them, and inside we are weary and tired. Isn’t this true, lovely friend? Sometimes we just want others to SEE so that we can stop making excuses for all of the things that we can not do.
The most important thing we can do, the most HEALING thing we can do is to recognize this pain in others, even when we have our own to deal with. Sometimes when someone seems grouchy, distant or irresponsible, it is because they are doing all that they can to hold everything together. Sometimes this is truer than true about our own selves.
We need to be kind, compassionate and patient with each other. We need to look past the way things may look on the outside and SEE the way things really are. We need to love each other in all of our frailness, in our weakness and in our “worst” moments….we need to do this for others, but we MOST OF ALL need to do this for ourselves.
One of the paradoxes of life is that sometimes the very best decisions have the most difficult consequences. And sometimes what is best is not what we want most. And sometimes when we want to feel peace, we have to do something that feels painful first. Sometimes we have to do such hard things, and there’s absolutely no other way.
You can do it, though. You know what is the right thing to do. You know for sure in your gut and deep in your heart, and a million signs have led you to what you are supposed to do. It still feels so scary, so difficult, and so impossible even for a very brave girl.
Just know that most of the best things in life come after making the most difficult choices, and doing the hardest things, and taking the biggest risks.
You really can do this. And miracles are going to happen when you do.
I know you do not understand. And in this moment I’m not asking you to. I’m not asking you to embrace it, understand it, like it or anything like that.
But I do need you to accept that this is not something I decided overnight. This is not something I enjoy. This is a last, but necessary, resort. And it was agreed upon by TWO people.
There are other things being said right now. I am fully aware of how everything appears. And it matters not at all to me if I smell like a rose or a skunk weed to the rest of you in the end. Because I know the truth. I’ve lived it.
With that being said it would be lovely if, while divorce isn’t a pretty thing, we could at least keep it civil. Thanks and good day.